What is love? Throughout my life I have been told that love never stops, and it is something eternal, but through personal experiences, and observation I learnt it can end as quickly as it started. It scares me to think that the eternal flame that I was told to cherish, can be quickly snuffed for no particular reason. Love is something that you cannot control, and it is something you cannot manufacture; it just exists. Can one actually ever fall out of love though? One might argue that the couple never felt love, and tried to expand their feelings too quickly thus by doing so, they made their souls have an emotional bankruptcy. Some might even argue that love is just two people saying that I can deal with you, and I appreciate your personality, but there is a point where you can't deal with the person anymore, so you fall out of love. It could even be a chemical response, and when the good chemical are done, the love stops. I would like to believe that love is a balance of everything I just listed, but the only difference is that the couple has to genuinely want strive to keep their love alive, instead of just letting it die quickly in the cold night of loneliness.
Which leads me to my second thought that ties into the subject of love; how does one tell the difference between love and lust? Both are feelings that everyone can experience, but most never really can tell which is which. Some believe that lust is the beginning of love, but in reality lust is just a sexual longing for a person. While love might have sexual longing, but there has to be a point were you satisfied intellectually by the person before you commit to your sexual desires. This is obviously a dilemma that is often experienced by adolescents, because a lot assume that when one has a sexual longing for someone they must be in love. So, they jump into hardcore relationships, with no actual logical base to it, so when the feeling of sexual desire leaves, they are left with feelings of resentment, and dislike towards their past sexual partner.
The point to this I guess is to show people that not everyone my age is a mindless slave following a strange emotional doctrine that leads them to get into trouble. Also I wanted to give my opinion on such a widely talked about issue like this. To sum up everything I have been saying, I guess it would have to be this, love can be an eternal thing, but only when one nurtures it and treats it with respect, and that lust can do harm to ones soul, so build an emotional base before you jump into sexual activities. You only live such a short life, so do not fill it with unneeded emotional pain when you are young, wait till you can accurately make decisions, then find your love.
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